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How to Be a Good Ally
“As someone striving to be an ally, the most important thing we can do is listen to as many voices of those we’re allying ourselves with as possible.”
How Not to be an Ally
“Well-intentioned people make mistakes – lots of them. Mistakes must be expected and being held accountable has to be expected as well. The points below outline some of the common behaviors that show up often in social justice conversations.”
The Do’s and Don’ts of Being a Good Ally
“Do read links/books referenced in discussions. Again, even if the things being said make you uncomfortable, part of being a good ally is not looking for someone to provide a 101 class midstream. Do your own heavy lifting.”
Tool for Recognizing Microaggression
Really great breakdown of common microaggressions and why they’re problematic, included phrases you may have previously considered compliments.
Unpaid Emotional Labor
“We are told frequently that women are more intuitive, more empathetic, more innately willing and able to offer succor and advice. How convenient that this cultural construct gives men an excuse to be emotionally lazy. How convenient that it casts feelings-based work as ‘an internal need, an aspiration, supposedly coming from the depths of our female character.’”
On the Emotional Labor of Unpaid Diversity Work
“The missing compassion around how taxing our requests on others can be is, by far, the one thing that I didn’t expect to come out of my work in the tech community. I wasn’t making money from my diversity work: I was content to see it benefit others and see that it was well-received by the larger community. But whenever I openly discussed feeling exhausted, tired, or otherwise unsure if I was on the right path, I was met with people expressing how they cared, but that my work was important. I began to feel like I was being advised to ‘ignore the haters’ and ‘just keep going’ only because the fruits of my labor were beneficial to others. I began to feel that the results I produced were valued above me and my mental health.”